Confusing love and obligation is what makes most of us bitter

I believe that there is a time in all of our lives where we have to decide between what is right for ourselves and what seems right for others, and a lot of times I know that I have always chosen to do what is right for others or right for the group as a whole. For the first time in a long time, this summer I have decided to do things right for me.

Making the decision to move to Cape May was a big starting point for me. For as long as I can remember I have wanted to live somewhere other than Miami, and after years of talking about it, finally I am actually doing it. I don't really have any answers as to why I never left before other than the time was not right. I still had a lot of lessons to learn.

Now as I sit here (in Jury Duty) trying to piece together the last 2 months of my life, and process the lessons that have been set for me there are a few things that come to mind.

1. I am the only person that knows me, what my needs are, and what my feelings are

2. people are going to deal with things in their own way, that is not your problem

3. No matter what happens always do what is best for you, that is the only way to ensure your happiness

I have had some surprises in the last few days that really made these lessons click in my head. Friends come and go, and even the ones that you thought would be there through it all have their line and that line is not in your control.

At the end of it all, everything is in God's hands and I trust that He is and will continue to provide me with people that are both healthy and supportive of my needs.